If you have teen, there are so many things to monitor and navigate as a parent in the 21st century. Smartphones are here to stay, and while these can have benefits such as keeping track of your teen’s whereabouts, study tools and time management apps, there are dangers that you need to be educated about as well. Teens can learn about new apps and workarounds with phones quickly. This means that parents need to be on top of their own knowledge base and be up with new trends and dangers that smartphones can bring into your teen’s life. Here are six tips to help parents monitor and protect teens when it comes to smartphone usage.
1. Don’t Be Shy About Monitoring Your Teen’s Smartphone Usage
While everyone deserves a certain level of privacy, when it comes to your teen and their smartphone, they need to expect a certain level of monitoring to come with this privilege. Being a teen means becoming more autonomous and wanting to try out being an adult in areas of their life, but this doesn’t mean you should shy away from being vigilant from monitoring their social life. A major component of this can include smartphone usage. Setting up clear expectations with your child and following through is key. While you shouldn’t spy on your teen or try to catch them in the act, they should know that you will be keeping an eye on certain platforms, whether this is social media sites, emails, apps, messaging services, or an overall phone check weekly or in some cases more often. This will give your child autonomy by knowing what you expect and how you will enforce rules, and they won’t feel as if you are trying to trap or trick them into getting into trouble. This can keep your teen from trying to hide things from you, which could ultimately get them into more trouble down the line.
2. Track Activity
Not all apps and features on smartphones are things you should be worried about. There are plenty of helpful tools out there for concerned parents who want to keep their teens safe when it comes to smartphones. Usage monitors, location apps, blockers, and timeout tools can all be useful for parents and can keep teens safe. Educating yourself on what tools might be best for you and your family’s needs can help take the guesswork out of monitoring your teen and feeling as if you are being invasive when it comes to their smartphones. If you can track what you need from your own phone or computer, you can rest easy and not worry as much about your teen.
3. Benefits of Shared Plans and Similar Smartphones
If you can replicate the access that your child has on their phone, you’ll be more privy to new apps and possible hidden dangers. There will always be new features for specific phones and app platforms, and you can stay on top of this if you have the same phone model. If you have the same plan and network, items in the cloud, on social media, and even emails and texts can even be monitored if necessary. While it is important to be transparent with your child when it comes to your access and monitoring, setting the right boundaries that work for you and your family can be easier to do if you are all on the same page. This involves familiarity with the newest phones, apps, and trends that you might miss if you are on a different plan or use a different type of phone than your teen.
4. Talk to Other Parents
A great defense when it comes to knowing the dangers your child might get into on their smartphone is to talk with other parents in your community. While smartphones can give teens the ability to communicate with others beyond your social circle and town, you’ll find that common trends when it comes to dares, apps and social media platforms can begin locally. If teens in your community are involved with the same smartphone features, new tips and tricks can be shared among parents at the same time. This doesn’t mean that all apps are bad, and you might find out about great apps to help teens study, learn about the world, or stay safe in your community. Finding out what is working and what isn’t in other households nearby will give you a head start when it comes to keeping your teen safe on and offline.
5. Understand Cyberbullying
While cyberbullying can happen online, this might not even start on one’s phone. Bullying can carry over from school or other places your child meets peers, and can escalate to online platforms. Other versions of cyberbullying can involve completely anonymous people in chat rooms or other social media platforms. Keeping communication open with your child about bullying in general can help give them the confidence and know-how to see something that isn’t right and even stick up for others when needed. Make sure your child knows they can come to you for advice and support if they are feeling bullied themselves, or see others in trouble online or through social media apps on their smartphone.
6. Have Ground Rules
Setting up clear rules and expectations when it comes to your child’s smartphone usage is the best way to have measurable expectations as a parent. While you can monitor your teen’s usage and set up tracking and blocking devices, there will always be new apps that you need to be aware of. If your child knows what they should be using their phone for and the types of apps and games you allow, they will be less likely to get into trouble. If your teen finds new items they would like to look at or download, they should know to to run these by you first. Your teen should know what you expect and understand why they are punished when they don’t stick to the ground rules.
While having technical knowledge can help you keep afloat when it comes to your child’s phone usage and possibilities, this is only half the battle. There will always be new dangers and apps popping up that aren’t necessarily safe for your child. Communication is more important than knowing your ins and outs with a phone. If you can ensure your child is educated on keeping safe, this can go a long way when it comes to your teen making smart choices online, on their phone, and in life.