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Think You Know What Your Child Has Access to Online? Think Again.

Keeping kids sheltered from the dangers in the world might be the number one goal of parents, but as our children grow older, it can become more difficult for parents to navigate. Especially these days, there is a world of information and with online access, children and teens may be viewing things that you aren’t even aware of. With so many ways for children to get online these days, from computers, laptops, tablets, and smartphones, it can be hard to know what your child is accessing online and what the effects might be.

What Parents Should Know
Children Accessing Content Online

While you might think you know your way around search engines and assume that free sites online are relatively harmless, there are plenty of sites, forums, chatrooms, and alternative search engines that could get your child access to areas of the web you would rather they avoid. Here are few common gateways that can lead to trouble for unsuspecting children who are innocently trying to connect with peers or find out more about their interests and hobbies.

Gaming and In-Game Purchases

If your child is into gaming, it is a good idea to monitor their usage and ensure that they aren’t paying for items in a game along the way that you didn’t authorize. Just because a game is free or comes with a minimal cost, to begin with, online games might offer in-game incentives. These upgrades can be easy to purchase on apps or through computer packages that are set up for autopay.

Forums and Chat Rooms

While certain sites themselves can be harmless when it comes to your child’s interests and hobbies, things can quickly unravel in chat rooms or closed forums. It is a good idea to monitor what sites your child is using and if logins are required. If they have an interest that can be enjoyed by all ages, it is a good idea to monitor even if just on occasion any posting or communications.

Video and Image Searches

While you might be familiar with searching for things on YouTube and Google, there are other, darker search engines that could lead your child to disturbing images and content, sometimes even illegal content. Check your child’s browser for specific subtopics on sites such as Reddit or Tumblr so you can decide if you would like to block these or monitor them. We always encourage that you use their device to monitor an app because some teens set up secret second accounts if they know parents are following the first one.

Social Media Sites

While you might be familiar with sites like Facebook, new social media sites pop up all of the time, and some can be more dangerous than others. Apps such as Kik and Snapchat let users post messages and pictures that many teens think are permanently deleted. Your teen might think this is a safe forum, but with screenshots, nothing that is deleted from a site is truly gone forever.

Ways to Protect Your KidsWhat Children Have Access to Online

Once you know what you and your children are up against when it comes to online safety, you can continue to educate yourself and stay vigilant on new trends online. Here are some real-life ways you can stay involved with your child’s internet usage and keep them protected even when you aren’t around. Keeping informed and communicating with your children of any age are great first steps in keeping them protected.

Look Into Protective Tools

Use a trustworthy parental control to easily block inappropriate content and websites. Discuss and set up time limits with your family. Discuss when they can be online and what types of websites or social media apps you feel are acceptable.  Some parents set time limits for social media but maybe will add additional time into the evening for their teens to use their devices just for homework, listen to music, or to even read a book on their tablet. This works well when you use a quality parental control solution that cannot be circumvented.  If you work together as a family and communicate your ground rules from the start you may run into fewer problems, in the long run.  As your child grows older and becomes more responsible it is easy to change these rules together.

Discuss Trends With Other Parents

Sometimes, your best defense against online dangers when it comes to children is to talk to other parents. Reach out to other parents with children around the same age as yours, or those who are in your community. This works best when they are your children’s friends parents. You can discuss any new trends or dangers that might be surfacing in a certain age group or demographic. Having a team of people you can rely on to discuss internet dangers will keep your children and other local kids safer overall.

Keep Communicating Parent Teaching Responsible Online Habits

As we always say, the absolute best way to keep your children safe is to have honest conversations with them about your fears, limits you would like to set, and why. If your children feel safe coming to you to talk about their concerns, this can open the door for open communication on things like cyberbullying or other dangers they may have inadvertently run across online. If you can be there for them as a helpful resource, they won’t feel like they need to hide things from you or cover up anything that they may have stumbled upon when online. Being approachable and easy to talk to will help your child make good decisions in all areas of their life, including their online presence.

We all know that sadly, we can’t protect our children forever, and they will experiment in various areas of their life. If you can be open and honest with your children when it comes to your concerns, they will be able to make the right choices, weigh their options, and not fall to peer pressure. Keep communicating with your family and keep yourself up-to-date and educated about online dangers and trends. If you can help your child navigate safe and unsafe areas of the internet in a more informed way, the more equipped they will be to make the right decisions online!

Is Excessive Mobile App Gaming a Mental Disorder?

If you have a child who plays a lot of video games and mobile app games like Fortnite, Minecraft, and Clash of Clans, you might find it annoying or even irritating as you ask him to come to the dinner table or get ready for school for the fourth time. You might even worry that she’s becoming addicted to the game, or wonder if her real-world social skills could be developing properly when she spends so much time in a digital world.

You probably never considered gaming as a mental health issue.

Gaming Mental DisorderKids And Excessive Gaming

The World Health Organization (WHO) released the latest edition of its International Classification of Diseases publication, which “…is the foundation for the identification of health trends and statistics globally, and the international standard for reporting diseases and health conditions. It is the diagnostic classification standard for all clinical and research purposes.”

In this issue, “gaming disorder” has been listed as a mental health condition.

Though gaming involves no abuse of a substance, it has similar addictive qualities and effects. Just as with an addiction to drugs or gambling, those with gaming disorder tend to persist with their gaming habits despite any negative consequences, such as strained relationships or trouble with sleep or overall health.

Diagnosing Gaming DisorderGaming Disorder

As with other diseases and physical and mental health conditions, only a health professional can make a diagnosis. To do that, they consider the following, as outlined in this CNN article about this newly classified disorder:

  • Does gaming take precedence over other activities?
  • Does the person spend more and more time gaming, despite negative consequences?
  • Does gaming impact the person’s life in a negative way? (For example, poor sleep habits due to playing late in the night, declining health, loss of friendships, or poor performance at school?)
  • Has the gaming behavior continued for at least a year?

If your child or teen is diagnosed with gaming disorder, he or she may need to undergo a treatment program that usually includes cognitive behavioral therapy, which, as Mayo Clinic explains, “…helps you become aware of inaccurate or negative thinking so you can view challenging situations more clearly and respond to them in a more effective way.” Alone or in conjunction with other treatments, it is often used to treat a wide range of issues, including depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and substance abuse.

Is Your Child at Risk for Gaming Disorder?Online Gaming Addiction

The CNN article quotes Dr. Vladimir Poznyak, from the WHO’s Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse, who says, “Millions of gamers around the world, even when it comes to the intense gaming, would never qualify as people suffering from gaming disorder.”

Furthermore, the article points out that there are a number of health professionals who disagree with the idea of gaming disorder being a mental health condition. One licensed psychologist who was interviewed for the story believes excessive gaming to be a coping mechanism for an issue like anxiety; once the anxiety is addressed in other ways, the amount of time spent gaming decreases.

How to Help Your ChildrenParents Teaching Healthy Gaming Habits

If you believe your child or teen may be addicted to gaming, you should schedule a visit with a health professional. Your doctor will recommend a treatment plan, which may include inpatient or outpatient treatment. There are some treatment centers that focus on gaming disorder.

Meanwhile, start to pay more attention to what your child does online.

  • Is he playing games when he’s on his mobile device, or is he talking to friends or browsing social media sites?
  • How much time is she spending online? How much time is spent in each type of online activity? Excessive internet use can become digital addiction, as well; it’s not just the games that may pose a danger.
  • What games does he play? Is he building cities or shooting enemies?
  • Why does she play them? Is it to connect with friends? To escape reality for a while? Stress relief? To create a character that embodies the qualities she hopes to develop? Or has it become her new “real life”?
  • How are the games played? What is the objective? How do you win?

Open a dialogue about your children’s internet use in general, and about their gaming habits in particular. Why do they like the games they do? What happens in those games? Your kids might enjoy explaining it to you; if not, you may have to play a few rounds yourself to understand what’s happening.

Have you heard your children talk about any of these popular games?

  • Minecraft
  • Fortnite
  • Clash of Clans
  • Angry Birds
  • Candy Crush
  • World of Warcraft
  • Monster Strike

It’s time to learn more about them, along with any other games you hear your child mention.

Of course, it’s always helpful to use trustworthy parental controls on your child’s mobile device. If you determine that a particular game is inappropriate for your child, you can block the app on his or her device. You can even easily set screen time limits that cannot be circumvented to ensure that your child is doing homework or participating in other activities, you can disable internet access during certain times of the day. For example, you might disable it starting at bedtime so he doesn’t spend precious sleeping hours playing video games, then allow for a few minutes of use in the morning after he’s ready for school, then disable it again while he is in class.

You can help your child schedule some “real world” activities during that internet downtime, too: think about family dinners, martial arts classes, or even going to the movies the old-fashioned way at a theater. Help him find real-world interests that may keep some of his attention away from video games.

Parental controls are a simple way to help you take some control over what your child does online. Along with that ongoing conversation about safe internet usage, you’re helping your child make responsible choices as they grow to understand the far-reaching impact of how they spend their time online.


Is Social Media a Trap?

Social media is a place to keep in touch with friends and share the important moments of our lives. That’s the bright, shiny aspect of it, anyway, and it’s what we like to tell ourselves.

However, for teenagers, social media is also a bit of trap, as this recent Wall Street Journal article explains.

An Online Popularity Contestsocial media trap

Social media profiles don’t happen by accident, and they’re rarely depictions of real life. Instead, they’re carefully curated and maintained to create the image of an enviable life.

Teens strive for popularity online, and their posts are designed to attract maximum attention. The article mentions this study, which introduces the concept of “digital status seeking”: “the investment of significant effort into the accumulation of online indicators of peer status and approval.”

Those online indicators go beyond likes. Getting tagged in other people’s photos as well as shares, comments, followers, and even the follow ratio (how many people follow you compared to how many people you follow) all come into play.

And teens do what they have to do to get them.

  • Spending more time making posts and browsing the newsfeed, a habit that can lead to digital addiction.
  • Extreme editing of photographs to make themselves more attractive.
  • Strategically posting during the busiest times of day to ensure more people see the post.
  • Asking friends to like or comment.
  • Buying likes and followers to appear more popular.
  • Stretching the truth or flat-out lying about what they’re doing or what’s happening in their lives.

Real-World Implicationssocial media trap

Girls are hit harder than boys: researchers point out that girls are more likely to compare their lives to what they see on social media, and their self-esteem can be impacted if they don’t feel like they measure up. The WSJ article also mentioned another study in the Journal of Research on Adolescence, which found that “several of the girls described the process [of maintaining a social media profile] as a lot of ‘work,’ but none of the boys described it that way, nor did they expect close friends to ‘like’ or comment on their posts.”

There is also ample opportunity for bullying and hurt feelings that carry over into a teen’s school and social life. For example, a friend might withhold her likes or comments if she’s irritated with you, thereby damaging your online popularity as well as the friendship.

But it doesn’t stop there:

Multiple group path analyses indicated that for both genders, digital status seekers engaged in higher levels of substance use and sexual risk behavior 1 year later…. Indeed, research examining offline processes suggests that adolescents who are more oriented toward or invested in their peer status are at greater risk for a host of negative behaviors, including deviance and rule breaking, substance use, and sexual risk behavior.

Hours spent on social media take time away from other essential activities, including homework and sleep. It creates a domino effect: less sleep can make your teen more grumpy and less attentive, which can impact his performance at school, which could make you introduce new rules or expectations about grades and behavior, which might erode your relationship if the struggle becomes the centerpiece of your lives.

Helping Our Teens Keep It In Perspectivesocial media trap

You’ve probably experienced a taste of the social media trap yourself: have you ever started scrolling through a newsfeed and then wondered where the time went? Did you ever see a photo of someone and think, “Wow, I wish I had that dress/car/trip/life?” For a teen, this can become all-encompassing.

Here are a few ways to prevent your teen from getting caught in the social media trap:

  • Real Life Validation: Teens, like the rest of us, want to feel loved, valued, and appreciated. They want to belong. Offer opportunities for this in real life so they’re not forced to seek all their validation online. This could come in the form of a sport or activity in which they excel in or a close family life. Every teen is different, and those years can be difficult (as you well know), but understand that the less included your child feels in real life, the more he or she will probably look for that inclusion online.
  • Real Talk: The conversation about your child’s digital life should be open and ongoing. Include honest discussions about the nature of social media and how what they see is not only the best of the best of someone’s life, it may very well be altered to appear even better than it was. Explain to your teen how some people buy likes and followers to appear more popular. You can easily find examples of this and teach your child to do the same: look for Instagram users with lots of followers but a very small percentage of likes per post. If a user has authentic followers and likes, about one to three percent of followers will like any particular post (with some popular profiles going up to five or six percent, genuinely). If the percentage is exceptionally higher or lower, there are probably some fake likes and followers there. Click on the followers and notice how many of them have no profile picture or little activity on their own profiles. Check the comments for irrelevant remarks.
  • Real Rules: Teenagers need guidelines when it comes to the internet, and it’s never too early to start setting some rules when it comes to mobile devices. Do your research and learn more about the many social sites available to your teen; if you find some that aren’t appropriate for your son or daughter, you can block them using trustworthy parental controls. You can also limit the amount of time your child spends online, which means less time on social media overall and more time with homework, family, or sleep.

We can’t keep our teens away from social media completely. They use these networks to build friendships, and their social life is partly online. To take that away would be to take away their connection to their peers. However, the risks are real, so as parents today we have to find the balance between the good and the bad of social media.


Teens and the Pressure to Sext

When you think of activities you don’t want your child doing on his or her mobile device, sexting is probably pretty high up on that list. The implications and risks go far beyond a private exchange within a relationship.

Unfortunately, teens are sexting, and there’s a lot of pressure to sext as well.

Sexting: A Definition

You might have an idea that sexting is only messages or only explicit photos. Merriam-Webster makes it pretty clear: sexting is “the sending of sexually explicit messages or images by cell phone,” or, of course, any electronic device. This includes nude or suggestive photos and videos, including those depicting sexual acts, and text messages that mention sexual activity.

Sexting can be consensual or not.

Not My Teen…Right?

Take a look at the research published in the JAMA Pediatrics journal:

“Among 39 studies (with 110 380 participants) in this meta-analysis, the mean prevalences for sending and receiving sexts were 14.8% and 27.4%, respectively, with prevalence rates increasing in recent years and as youth age.”

And it’s not just boys.

Girls and boys are equal participants when it comes to sexting.

The Pressure to Sextpressure to sext

Some teens start sexting because they want to. Others feel pressured to participate.

This article points out the reasons that young men and women might feel pressured to send explicit photos and messages:

  • It’s what all her friends are doing.
  • His girlfriend is asking him for nude photos or sending her own nude photos without being asked to do so.
  • She wants to fit in and is having trouble finding a social circle at school. Sexting becomes an effort to gain popularity.
  • His friends are making fun of him for not sexting with his girlfriend.

The author shares her personal findings from an unofficial experiment where she created social media profiles and stated that she was bored and wanted someone to talk to. “96% of all people that responded to my posts asked or initiated sexting within the first 5 sent messages.” Some sent explicit photos without even greeting her. And after she refused to participate? Many got dismissive and aggressive; ultimately, “87% of all respondents blocked me or stopped messaging me altogether.”

This shows a certain demand or expectation for young girls to participate in sexting.

It’s easy to see how a vulnerable teenager who wants to be liked would cave into those expectations, particularly if the pressure is from people he or she has to see at school every day.

The Problem With Sextingpressure to sext

In the best scenario, the sexting occurs between two young people within a relationship built on mutual trust and respect. It’s part of their personal exploration of their sexual identities and relationship. When the relationship ends, those messages disappear.

Unfortunately, that’s not always the case.

Even secret sexts can be accidentally shared or maybe glimpsed by a friend who borrows the phone. And the situation is often more dire.

Sometimes, those messages and images are used against the sender to blackmail or humiliate him or her. The images may be shared, and they end up spreading quickly within your teen’s peer group and to the online world at large.

Sometimes, people who sext can be charged with a crime. Students have faced child pornography charges because of nude selfies and videos. (See news stories on this issue here, here, and here.)

What Can You Do?

To start with, we have to recognize this new norm.

This New York Times article acknowledges that sexting among teens is on the rise, and notes that “…experts say that rather than being shocked to find that kids are sexting, we should instead be talking about it from an early age, just as we should about other aspects of their developing sense of their sexual identities.”

It’s not all bad: the uptick in sexting has corresponded with a downturn in sexual activity rates among high school students.

Talk to your teens honestly about the implications of sexting:

  • Explain that images spread quickly over the internet. Even someone you love and trust might accidentally share the photo with a friend or intentionally share it with a trusted friend who’s maybe not so trustworthy, after all. “…help them think about what it might feel like to have intimate photos of themselves forwarded to any number of peers by someone they thought they liked or trusted.
  • Bring up the potential legal issues. Many teens aren’t aware of that when they start sharing photos and messages with friends.
  • Talk about respect. That’s a conversation that helps your child manage online discussions, as well, and could make him think twice before sending an image that wasn’t requested.
  • Teach your teen about consent. This important topic goes beyond real-life scenarios and into the digital world, as well. If she is uncomfortable about anything that happens online, she needs to know she can come to you for help.
  • Talk about strangers. Not everyone is who they appear to be online. Sexting with someone you know carries some risks, but sexting with a stranger could be something else altogether. Insist that your child not give any personal information to anyone they don’t know.
  • Set internet guidelines. Set rules about when your teen can use the internet and what he can do while he’s online. Trustworthy parental controls can help you enforce those rules because you’re able to disable the internet on the device and block specific sites and apps (or entire categories of sites!). You might also let them know from the start that you will be making regular phone checks and social media reviews. All the rules in the world might not prevent your teenager from sexting, but you can eliminate some of the time and temptation by insisting upon no specific app usage or internet after your teen goes to bed, for example.

Like it or not, sexting is a part of life for many teenagers today. Instead of fighting it, let’s learn how we can manage it to keep our kids safe, happy, and healthy. Like many internet issues, it all starts with keeping an open dialogue with your teenager. If parental controls can make it easier, use them. Navigating this ever-changing landscape is challenging enough!

Apple iOS 12 Parental Controls – Getting Better

Apple iOS 12 Parental Controls Review

Apple recently announced the upcoming release of iOS 12. While iOS 12 won’t be released to the general public until the Fall, Netsanity is actively reviewing the beta version. The beta version of iOS 12 is packed full of new features, including some long-anticipated parent controls — like the feature called Screen Time. Screen Time is Apple’s first attempt at providing real, usable controls for parents who want to keep their children safe online.

Child safety online, is a founding principal of Netsanity, and we take it very seriously; therefore, we’ve written this sneak peek into the upcoming iOS 12 features (specifically Screen Time, Downtime, Notifications, Do Not Disturb, and Web Content Filtering) and explain in “parent-speak” how they will compliment your subscription to Netsanity.

New Feature: Screen Time

Apple iOS 12 Parental Controls - Screen Time

Screen Time aggregates device and app usage information into several colorful – and informative – charts and graphs. These graphs show primarily what categories and apps a device user interacts with the most, as well as how often they pick up their device. Also, if you have set up an allowance for a specified amount of time per day on a category or app, the Screen Time feature will show how much time is remaining for the current day if you have set up limits in Screen Time’s App Limits feature.

Screen Time’s App Limits feature “allows people to set a specific amount of time to be in an app, and a notification will display when a time limit is about to expire,” according to Apple’s release notes (Usually gives a 5-minute warning).

App Limits


However, There Are Control Limitations

As any parent who has tried to limit a child’s access to their device will know, our children are smart about getting around settings or enforcement. For instance, after taking away my daughter’s iPhone one long weekend, I noticed that the barrage of complaints from her suddenly ceased (like when toddlers at playtime are all of a sudden very quiet – you know something is amiss). Well, while she did not have access to her iPhone, she did have her computer and simply logged-in to her favorite messaging app’s companion website and satisfied her “Fear of Missing Out.” With iOS 12, an app may be blocked after a specified amount of time used for a given daily limit, but, or any other website will not be blocked. Even when the entire category of “Social Media” is blocked, only the Social Media apps on the device are actively restricting access.
We have approached this problem differently from the outset. Netsanity blocks websites, apps, and content using the actual network and not the app. So, when a parent blocks Snapchat via appblocker, for example, we block both the app and the website access. That is the only way to really lock it down.
We really like the Screen Time feature, especially the charts and graphs, and we believe that Apple is the only true source we can trust for Screen Time metrics, as they keep that information very secure – for many reasons. Yet, don’t be lulled into a false sense of security when you see Facebook or Instagram app screen time’s start to dwindle – especially if you don’t hear complaints from your teenager – as they are most likely increasing their web traffic on Safari or Chrome or one of the other browsers to get their “needs” met.

New Feature: Downtime

Downtime — Don’t we all need a little :)! Apple’s Downtime feature will block access to all apps, except for phone calls (unless an app is specifically in the “Always Allowed List”. This feature will mute notifications from apps and will display a badge on apps to indicate they are not allowed to be used. Parents can choose individual apps like SMS or Facetime, for example, to always be available even during Downtime.

Apple iOS 12 Parental Contols - Downtime

Warning: Parents should be careful if they use the same account as their kids as this applies to all devices, so make sure you create a child apple id. We see kids requesting parents for more time which will create a “spamming” effect. Kids will click the button repeatedly until a parent physically takes the iPhone away – you have been warned!

Downtime is a similar feature to Netsanity’s existing timeblocker and timeout features that are popular with parents. With the timeblocker scheduler or timeout, you can also lock the screen, hide all the apps, and disable the internet. Netsanity’s timeblocker provides for different schedules based on the day of the week and allows you to set it on one or all devices including non-apple devices, like a Samsung tablet.


With the new release, Apple allows parents more control over how notifications are delivered. You can turn them off completely via the Notification Center. They have also integrated with Siri, so Siri can make suggestions for notifications settings. We think this is a great feature and will allow parents to curb some unneeded distractions.

Netsanity’s Timeblocker and Timeout feature work similarly to reduced notifications. For instance, when I child is blocked based on a set schedule, for instance for bed-time, notifications and news on the locked screen are blocked from displaying.

Do Not Disturb

Apple has had Do Not Disturb (aka DND) for a while, but it was most notable in the “while driving” feature. With the release of iOS 12, Apple has added even more capabilities. Now, there is also a new DND during Bedtime mode to help kids get a better night’s sleep by dimming the display and hiding all notifications on the lock screen until prompted in the morning. DND has new options from Control Center where it can be set to automatically end based on a specified time or location.

Porn and Website Blocking

Apple IOS has had limited content filtering for years. Parents needed to go into device restrictions on each device and manually set those filter options. Those capabilities have now been exposed to parents so they can be managed remotely. However, those are in effect only for Safari and are very limited. Furthermore, Screen Time is built completely around monitoring the app’s usage but gives no insight into how your children use the browser or where they are spending their browser time.

Unlike Apple’s limited filtering, Netsanity has extensive, network level parental controls that will block not just porn, but 30+ other categories with one click. Parents need to be aware that most porn is accessed via hidden apps, non-Safari browsers, proxy servers, and the dark web. Apple’s content filtering does not address any of those access points. Parents who need a serious website filter will still need a powerful tool, like Netsanity’s content filtering and network-level blocking to protect their kids from pornography and other harmful content.

Furthermore, Netsanity offers both YouTube and Safe Search options. This means that you don’t have to completely block Google searches nor the YouTube app to protect kids from unsuitable content. We feel that Apple missed out by not having those as core options, and points to the continued need for services that are designed specifically for the task of parental controls.

Netsanity + iOS 12 = Complete Solution To Protect Your Children

Apple’s new features are a welcome addition and will drive more adoption for parental involvement in their children’s online activity. As in most things, not every feature solves every unique family situation. There are many times where a solution for one child will not work for another.

Parents need true content filtering, porn controls, the ability to block websites in addition to apps, other device restrictions, etc… Apple’s new parental controls will not fill all those rabbit holes that children invariably go down in to. Finding a comprehensive secure way for children to navigate the Mobile/Internet world, is all we do at Netsanity. And for that reason, we applaud Apple’s recognition that they must do more, and believe that Netsanity + Apple iOS 12 gets us much closer to our goal as parents.

Matt, CTO – Netsanity


Teens and Smartphone Usage – Six Tips and Tricks for Parents

If you have teen, there are so many things to monitor and navigate as a parent in the 21st century. Smartphones are here to stay, and while these can have benefits such as keeping track of your teen’s whereabouts, study tools and time management apps, there are dangers that you need to be educated about as well. Teens can learn about new apps and workarounds with phones quickly. This means that parents need to be on top of their own knowledge base and be up with new trends and dangers that smartphones can bring into your teen’s life. Here are six tips to help parents monitor and protect teens when it comes to smartphone usage.

1. Don’t Be Shy About Monitoring Your Teen’s Smartphone Usage

While everyone deserves a certain level of privacy, when it comes to your teen and their smartphone, they need to expect a certain level of monitoring to come with this privilege. Being a teen means becoming more autonomous and wanting to try out being an adult in areas of their life, but this doesn’t mean you should shy away from being vigilant from monitoring their social life. A major component of this can include smartphone usage. Setting up clear expectations with your child and following through is key. While you shouldn’t spy on your teen or try to catch them in the act, they should know that you will be keeping an eye on certain platforms, whether this is social media sites, emails, apps, messaging services, or an overall phone check weekly or in some cases more often. This will give your child autonomy by knowing what you expect and how you will enforce rules, and they won’t feel as if you are trying to trap or trick them into getting into trouble. This can keep your teen from trying to hide things from you, which could ultimately get them into more trouble down the line.

2. Track Activityteens smartphone usage

Not all apps and features on smartphones are things you should be worried about. There are plenty of helpful tools out there for concerned parents who want to keep their teens safe when it comes to smartphones. Usage monitors, location apps, blockers, and timeout tools can all be useful for parents and can keep teens safe. Educating yourself on what tools might be best for you and your family’s needs can help take the guesswork out of monitoring your teen and feeling as if you are being invasive when it comes to their smartphones. If you can track what you need from your own phone or computer, you can rest easy and not worry as much about your teen.

3. Benefits of Shared Plans and Similar Smartphones

If you can replicate the access that your child has on their phone, you’ll be more privy to new apps and possible hidden dangers. There will always be new features for specific phones and app platforms, and you can stay on top of this if you have the same phone model. If you have the same plan and network, items in the cloud, on social media, and even emails and texts can even be monitored if necessary. While it is important to be transparent with your child when it comes to your access and monitoring, setting the right boundaries that work for you and your family can be easier to do if you are all on the same page. This involves familiarity with the newest phones, apps, and trends that you might miss if you are on a different plan or use a different type of phone than your teen.

4. Talk to Other ParentsParents discussing teens smartphone usage

A great defense when it comes to knowing the dangers your child might get into on their smartphone is to talk with other parents in your community. While smartphones can give teens the ability to communicate with others beyond your social circle and town, you’ll find that common trends when it comes to dares, apps and social media platforms can begin locally. If  teens in your community are involved with the same smartphone features, new tips and tricks can be shared among parents at the same time. This doesn’t mean that all apps are bad, and you might find out about great apps to help teens study, learn about the world, or stay safe in your community. Finding out what is working and what isn’t in other households nearby will give you a head start when it comes to keeping your teen safe on and offline.

5. Understand Cyberbullying

While cyberbullying can happen online, this might not even start on one’s phone. Bullying can carry over from school or other places your child meets peers, and can escalate to online platforms. Other versions of cyberbullying can involve completely anonymous people in chat rooms or other social media platforms. Keeping communication open with your child about bullying in general can help give them the confidence and know-how to see something that isn’t right and even stick up for others when needed. Make sure your child knows they can come to you for advice and support if they are feeling bullied themselves, or see others in trouble online or through social media apps on their smartphone.

6. Have Ground RulesParent discussing ground rules for teens smartphone usage

Setting up clear rules and expectations when it comes to your child’s smartphone usage is the best way to have measurable expectations as a parent. While you can monitor your teen’s usage and set up tracking and blocking devices, there will always be new apps that you need to be aware of. If your child knows what they should be using their phone for and the types of apps and games you allow, they will be less likely to get into trouble. If your teen finds new items they would like to look at or download, they should know to to run these by you first. Your teen should know what you expect and understand why they are punished when they don’t stick to the ground rules.

While having technical knowledge can help you keep afloat when it comes to your child’s phone usage and possibilities, this is only half the battle. There will always be new dangers and apps popping up that aren’t necessarily safe for your child. Communication is more important than knowing your ins and outs with a phone. If you can ensure your child is educated on keeping safe, this can go a long way when it comes to your teen making smart choices online, on their phone, and in life.

What Parents Should Know About Decoy Apps

The app store can be a jungle. Among the most familiar, popular apps lie hundreds upon hundreds of apps that may (or may not) be useful on a smaller scale. Some of these apps aren’t what they appear to be.

Take the Apple app Calculator%. It was a fully functioning calculator! Pretty harmless, right?

It had a secret, though. It contained an album that allowed users to hide photos and videos behind what appeared to be a mere calculator. That proves to be pretty handy for a teenager who’s trying to keep some content secret from a parent who might casually glance through the smartphone.

Apple recently removed the app from its store in the middle of an investigation by police in Great Britain.

But the story of decoy apps doesn’t end there.

The Rise of the Decoy AppsDecoy Apps

Dr. Chris Taylor, an associate professor at the Milwaukee School of Engineering, was quoted in this article:

“So a decoy app is an app that’s designed to look like one thing but serve a different purpose…. They do have a legitimate purpose if you wanted to hide your passwords, and you didn’t want anybody to know that you even had passwords on your phone, so they didn’t try to get at them. If you have a decoy app, that’s a great place to stick it.”

Of course, people have found other uses for decoy apps.

This article says decoy or vault apps have been around since 2012. In 2015, high school students in Colorado were caught trading hundreds of naked photos (featuring at least 100 different students) via vault apps. It made it easy for the kids to conceal the photos, which otherwise might have been noticed by diligent parents.

How to Spot a Decoy App

In the app stores, decoys are not a secret. They explain exactly what they are and what they’re for. Some of them include:

  • Calorie Counter – Hide My Text
  • Hide My Text – Invisible
  • Secret Hidden Calculator Free
  • GalleryVault Pro Key
  • Stashword
  • Private Photo Vault
  • Best Secret Folder

The point is, if you’re looking on the app store, you’ll find the decoy apps right away. However, on your child’s device, you might not notice a seemingly innocent calculator, game, or music app. If you make regular checks of your child’s device, don’t spend all your time in the photos and texts: check for new apps, as well. If you’re not familiar with what you see, look them up to find out if they might be doubling as a hiding place.What Are Decoy Apps

The Problem With These Apps

The big problems are obvious now: the Colorado sexting ring is an example of that. But how else might this become a problem for your child?

They might not just be hiding photos and videos. Some apps allow for secret chats to be exchanged; your child could bully someone or be bullied behind that closed door. It’s also a place for them to hide passwords you are supposed to have access to.

Keep in mind that decoy apps require a password to access the hidden material, but they may also allow for decoy passwords! In that case, you might spot the decoy app and ask your child to open it. He or she enters a password and shows you a lot of innocent content that was placed there as a second decoy. Meanwhile, there’s a real password that accesses different material.

How to Keep Your Child From Using Decoy AppsExamples of Decoy Apps

It’s probably hard to imagine that your children could get involved with something like an illicit sexting ring, but the truth is it’s hard to keep track of every influence your children are under when they’re away at school.

Of course, the presence of a decoy app on your child’s device doesn’t automatically mean they’re involved in something like that, but it does probably mean you need to find out what’s going on.

Common Sense Media offers the following guidelines for dealing with decoy apps:

  • Talk to your kids: The online safety talk should happen at least by the time they get their first mobile device. Allow this to be an ongoing conversation where your child feels free to share anything that concerns him or her online.
  • Talk about photos: Even private photos shared between two people, such as those in an intimate relationship, can easily be made public if one party decides to violate the trust out of jealousy, anger, or any other emotion. Teenagers may have a hard time understanding that when they’re in the middle of a relationship with someone they trust.
  • Keep in mind the reasons for hiding: Your kids might not be trying to deceive you; instead, they might be hiding something from a friend. There’s a reason for concern here, as well, but you don’t have to assume they’re hiding something from you.
  • Take a look: “If you need to do a spot check, on iPhones go to Settings -> Privacy -> Camera to see which apps have used the camera. This will reveal any camera apps disguised as something else.”
  • Don’t assume the worst: Maybe your kids aren’t hiding anything at all. Maybe they’re just curious about new apps and technology and enjoy playing with them. If you see a vault or decoy app on your child’s device, find out more before jumping to conclusions.

Your child may exhibit certain behaviors that could indicate some trouble online. These don’t necessarily point to a decoy app, but they are enough for you to take a closer look at what might be happening with your child on the internet:

  • Regularly hiding the screen from onlookers
  • A sudden change in mood or personality
  • Spending more and more time online
  • Unwillingness to share social media usernames and passwords
  • Unwillingness to talk about what they do online
  • Disinterest in formerly enjoyable activities
  • Disinterest in going to school

With trustworthy parental controls, you can block specific apps and entire categories of apps, so your child can’t download them in the first place or if you just want them to take a break from apps that they tend to overuse. This gives you a powerful tool in managing your child’s online activity—and safety.

Screentime: Children Need Parents to Create Boundaries

Parenthood might seem like a constant struggle of drawing a line and watching your child cross it. Children clearly hate boundaries, right? Giving them too many makes them want to rebel; those lines create two teams in your household, and raising a child becomes “us against them”.

Not always.

The truth is, children not only need but actually want boundaries, though they probably wouldn’t be the first to admit it. This is especially true when it comes to screentime.

Don’t laugh! We know you’re envisioning those moments when you asked a teen to put down the phone and it resulted in a fit that quickly escalated. But take a look at the research.

Young People Want Screentime Boundaries

This article outlines research that shows young people making excuses to get away from their phones:

“There were students who intentionally left their chargers at home so their phones would die on them during the day, a girl who mainly went to church to escape her phone, and students who reported they enlisted friends to literally hide their devices from them.”

They admit to an addiction to their smartphones and other devices (one person named her phone and spoke about it like it was a person) and then admit to intentionally taking time away from the devices—or trying to. Like a jar of cookies, it’s hard to avoid reaching for the phone when you know it’s right there, waiting for you.

The researcher, Donna Freitas, writes that many of the college students she talked to couldn’t imagine life without a smartphone, yet they were happy (or perhaps relieved) about finding areas on campus where the Wi-Fi failed. “Clearly, young adults don’t have a blissfully happy attachment to their smartphones. Even though it frustrates and even embarrasses some of them to admit this, many long for our permission and help to unplug when they can’t do it on their own.”

Setting Screen Time BoundariesControl Screentime With Netsanity

Freitas is quick to note that people aren’t always happy at the moment the phone is taken away. In some cases, students whose parents took their phones away experienced withdrawal and found the separation to be difficult. However, after the initial shock and discomfort passed, they enjoyed the break.

Like so much of what you do as a parent, your kids will thank you later for limiting their screentime.

Here are some guidelines to help you set healthy screen time boundaries for your children:

  • Be compassionate: “Smartphones and social media are designed to make us want to use them more, not less.” The draw to pick up the device is intense, as you have probably experienced yourself. Understand that marketers and designers are intentionally making it that way, and they’re good at it. Your kids are fighting that battle, too.
  • Focus on the benefits: There are many difficult things we do for our children, and this may be one of them. Especially if your kids are young, it’s hard for them to imagine how their social media and internet habits could impact their lives over the long term. Keep your focus on how much the boundaries help them, even if they don’t realize it yet.
  • Consider the AAP recommendations: The American Academy of Pediatrics offers guidelines for media use starting with infants. By the time the child is older than six, they recommend having regular communication about safety and respect online, keeping consistent limits on the type of media your kids use and how much time they spend using it, and offering device-free time periods or zones in your home (like at the dinner table or in the bedrooms).
  • Let them help you set the boundaries: Depending on the age of your child, he or she may be able to work with you to set boundaries you can agree upon. Obviously, you have the final say, but a teen may appreciate the opportunity to offer input. For example, it gives her an opportunity to explain that she needs her device at 5:00 because that’s when her friends meet online to discuss their weekend plans; this helps you understand why she might get upset if you try to turn off her internet connection at that time. With the permission to attend her meeting, she may be willing to concede to other restrictions rather than fighting against them. Coming to these agreements makes the boundaries easier to uphold, and it makes for a happier household overall. Another great option that parents use is to just simply block a few social media apps in the evening hours, giving your child time to focus on homework while still having access to their device for music or to access other information.
  • Talk about why: Discuss the reasons for the boundaries rather than using, “Because I said so.” This is easy to do when you have that conversation where your child helps you set the boundaries. He might argue against one, and you can clearly outline why you feel the way you do, and vice versa. That doesn’t mean he’ll like it or agree, at least at first, but at least he knows your reasoning—and just as importantly, you know his.
  • Allow room for growth: Boundaries can change as your child grows. Keep in mind that you might need to revisit the conversation on a regular basis as your child becomes more mature and responsible for making decisions online.
  • Use parental controls: Rules are difficult to enforce when your child spends so much time alone with her device and away from you. Trustworthy parental controls help fill that gap, and they might be a (secret) relief for your child. By blocking certain sites and apps, or limiting the time your child can spend online, it frees her from the temptation to look at something you’ve told her not to or to pick up the phone when she knows she should be studying.Manage Screentime With Netsanity

Given the well-known dangers and concerns of excessive smartphone use, including technology addiction, cyberbullying, sexting, and exposure to unsavory sites and people, setting screentime boundaries is an essential part of parenting in the digital age.

How to Raise Privacy-Savvy Kids

Safety has always been a parental concern. You probably remember being told not to talk to strangers and to “stop, drop, and roll.” You were taught to wear your seatbelt in the car and a helmet on your bike. You’ve passed those safety guidelines along to your own children.

In our digital world, that’s no longer enough.

As parents today, we have a far bigger list of safety and privacy concerns. Thanks, internet.

As a parent, you must have internet safety talks with your children. It’s not a one-time chat, but an ongoing conversation with guidelines that may change as your children grow and as the internet evolves.

Here are a few items to include in those discussions.

Personal Information

It’s important for children to understand what they should and shouldn’t share about themselves online. On social media sites, teach them to avoid giving their address, phone number, or current location publicly.

Explain how companies gather and use their information, as well. Before providing their address, age, or other details with a website, they should think about why they’re providing it and who they’re providing it to. If they’re placing an order with a reputable company, then of course they’ll have to enter their address. However, that should never be a requirement for signing up for an email newsletter, and they might want to think twice before doing certain online quizzes.

Passwords and Privacy

Common Sense Media suggests using the strictest privacy settings on apps and websites. For social media sites, teach your child to make his posts private, so that only his friends can see them.

Create good passwords and change them on a regular basis. Always use a combination of letters (upper and lower case), numbers, and symbols, and don’t use any identifying or easy-to-guess words or numbers, like your own birthday. Online breaches reveal the most common passwords are “123456” and, unbelievably, “password.” Don’t let that be true for you or your kids. You might also insist on knowing your child’s password so you can access her accounts when you need to.

If your child is under the age of 13, the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act helps protect your child’s information. “If a site or service is covered by COPPA, it has to get your consent before collecting personal information from your child and it has to honor your choices about how that information is used.”

Online FriendsRaising Privacy-Savvy Children

Your children should avoid “friending” people they don’t know in real life. Some social media sites make this easy; others are based around connecting with strangers.

People aren’t always who they say they are. Your children can connect with and learn from people around the world, but they need to draw the line at sharing revealing information. Ask your child to tell you if anyone they meet online is asking them for personal information or making them feel uncomfortable in any way. This includes bullying, which can often show up in unexpected ways.

Though it may be unlikely that your child would come across an online predator, it’s obviously a serious danger when it does happen. Keep in mind that many predators are patient and crafty: they find creative ways of getting the information they need from your child. There’s no reason to scare your kids, but teach them to be diligent about online users they don’t know in real life.

Long-Lasting, Far-Reaching PostsPrivacy-savvy Rules to Live By

The internet lasts forever. Every post, every photo, can quickly be shared with thousands and even millions of people.

That’s why it’s essential for your children to avoid sharing embarrassing or risque photos of themselves or someone else. What’s meant to be a private exchange with a romantic interest can quickly spread through the school if the recipient is not as honest as your child thinks he or she is.

Teach them to pay attention to what they say, as well. Before they put someone down or get into an argument, they need to think about what they’re typing. People can have access to those words for years.

Your Involvement

Just like you keep track of where your child goes to after school and who his friends are, you have to watch out for where your child goes and who he makes friends with online.

This isn’t always easy to do. The best approach is multi-faceted.

  • First, keep an open dialogue with your child. It’s no surprise that children don’t always share everything with their parents, but the best way to encourage it is with open, honest communication. Let your kids know it’s safe to tell you about what happens online. Make it a habit of asking questions about what your child does online, and be honest about any nosing around you might do. For example, instead of sneaking into her account, let her know from the beginning that if she wants to use a certain site or app, you have to have access to it at all times.
  • Set a great example. Watch your own online behavior, taking care not to share photos that could embarrass your child and avoid nasty arguments that result in name-calling. Ask yourself, “Would I want my child doing this? What would he think if he saw this?”
  • Stay up-to-date with the internet and social media. New apps and sites are popping up every day. When one of them starts to gain traction, you want to know about it as soon as your child does—or before. Visit the site yourself to see what it’s all about before allowing your child to access it.
  • Set guidelines for internet use. Trustworthy parental controls can make it easier for you enforce rules about which sites are off-limits and which hours of the day need to be spent away from a mobile device. You can set stricter guidelines to start, and gradually ease up as your child matures and gets more responsible.

No one said parenting in the digital age was going to be easy, but we’re all doing the best we can in this ever-evolving framework.

Group Video-Chats and Live Streaming Are the Newest Fad for Tweens and Teens

Ever since the beginning of time kids have longed for spending time with friends. But there’s a digital world out there that allows their way of communicating to be forever changing. Nowadays, kids don’t have to rely on just transmitting words or pictures when they have the options to create, share and watch live video or participate in a group video-chat. To them, it’s like live TV and just as good as personally being with their friends.

Even though these apps give teens a sense of belonging, parents need to realize there are a few things to be aware of. Many teens follow people that gain fame with live-streaming; teens are fascinated with this new technological way of being famous and some teens will host anything and everything they can about themselves through live-streaming—even a crime or their own suicide. But as horrid as that sounds, live-streaming does have a benefit since politicians and Hollywood celebs are now getting into the act; it allows tweens and teens to participate in meaningful real-time events and obtain on-site news.

So what group video-chat and live-streaming apps are popular with tweens and teens? Join us and we’ll name them and discuss what you should know about each app.

Three Group Video-Chatting AppsGroup Video Chat

Houseparty – Teens don’t have to go to each other’s houses to hang out anymore; your teen can go to the privacy of her bedroom, close her door and visit her friend on her phone. In Houseparty, a group chat can contain up to 8 people and they can set up more than one chat room. They have the ability to lock the chat to prevent others from joining and you should encourage her to do so. If they don’t lock the chat and a friend’s friend or stranger joins the group, others will be notified and have the option to disconnect from the call. With this type of app, teens want to always be connected for fear they’ll miss something; so mature content, privacy, and predators can be a problem. Here are some other things to do and be aware of:

  • Advise your teen to turn on the privacy settings whenever they are in Houseparty to keep the chats private.
  • Since this app doesn’t verify ages, anyone could “eavesdrop” and even record or take screenshots of an unlocked group chat.
  • It’s a good idea that your teen uses Houseparty within your earshot and you allow chats for family members and close friends only.

Airtime – This is more than just a group video chat app which is why tweens and teens adore it. With this app, your teen can share with their friends’ real-time pictures, videos and music from websites like Spotify and YouTube as they simultaneously video-chats or texts. Your teen also has control over the chat rooms they set up; they can insist on entrance requests, maintain a public or completely private chat room or restrict entries to friend’s friends. This sounds okay, right? It’s actually not okay. Here’s why:

  • There aren’t any content filters on the internet meaning that they can search and see anything on the web.
  • Airtime’s creators are allowed to keep anything that your teen uploads to the app and they’ll gather and share much info with third-parties.
  • Those are frightening thoughts and very good reasons to carefully read Airtime’s privacy policy!

Monkey – Teens need to have a Snapchat account to use Monkey. They like this app because its appearance is similar to Snapchat which makes it more comfortable for them to use. Monkey randomly matches your teen with users worldwide! Before connecting, your teen will view the gender, age and location of her perspective friend. Once matched, they can choose to have a 10-second video chat with that person or skip to the next match. Ten seconds isn’t very long so, if both agree, your teen can expand the chat time or add their new-found friend to Snapchat to keep chatting. You should be forewarned that:

  • When signing up, your teen will have to give their Snapchat username and password as well as their phone number.
  • It’ll also be alarming to know that Monkey’s terms and conditions say that the creators can share anything on their app with third-parties; this includes texts, posts, URLs, videos, pictures, messages, HTML’s and other material.
  • What’s even more concerning is there aren’t any parental controls and, although the legal age to use Monkey is 13, there isn’t any age verification.
  • It’s best to go over their privacy policy with a fine-toothed comb and make sure your teen understands that everything they put on the internet is visible.

Six Live-Streaming AppsLive Streaming Apps

YouNow – This very popular live-streaming app provides its own culture and celebrities from teens who like to be goofy to teens who display their own talent. What’s the good news about this app? It’s monitored and they frequently ban or block kids who swear in the comments or broadcast unsuitable content; when teens register, though, they’re provided with instructions on what will get them banned or blocked. Since it’s monitored and there are actual consequences for defiant streamers, YouNow is a bit better than most other live-streaming apps. What’s unique about this app is when your teen views a broadcast, they can buy gifts or gold bars which produces money for that streamer. Here’s what else you should know:

  • It’s important that your teen understands that they’ll be possibly spending your money and the dangers of doing so unsupervised.
  • Along with the usual hazards in live-streaming, there’s no promise that all mature stuff will be filtered out; so they may still see something you don’t want them to see.
  • Most likely they’ll be in the comfort of her bedroom when they are live-streaming. This may be nice for her but being comfy can lead to the risk of oversharing. Stress to your child that oversharing is dangerous and why; let them know what’s okay and not okay to share.

Periscope – This app, which is owned by Twitter, allows anything to be broadcasted and viewed by your teen on the internet as it happens. Yup, anything they wants—and anyone from anywhere in the world can view his broadcast too. Sounds just like live TV, right? Well, Periscope takes it one step further: using live video or text, your teen can interact with other live-streamers and follow them. When they follow a user, they’ll get a notification when that person goes live. When your teen clicks on their stream, they’ll be able to see the username which isn’t a great thing if the person your teen’s viewing is a total stranger. However, the one good thing is that your teen can’t be seen unless they turn on their camera and it’s best to urge him to leave it off. Here are some more details you’re not aware of:

  • Many live-stream broadcast apps don’t have a delay, as is the case with Periscope, and there’s no one monitoring it either.
  • If your teen does a broadcast then they may be subject to harassing and bullying comments which that may not be able to handle.
  • Your teen could possibly be exposed to streams of violence, criminal activity, sex and even suicides—which can be extremely disturbing to anyone especially a teen.
  • What’s even more unsettling is that all live-streams are automatically set to “public”. So anyone can view a broadcast and even has the option to record it—that puts a chill up your spine, doesn’t it? It’s vital that you encourage your teen to do private broadcasts only and go over stuff that they could stumble upon. – This app promotes fame and narcissism—and says so right in its name. The leading force of is being noticed and becoming a star—a dream of many teens these days. This is why it’s so popular with not only older teens but tweens too. It’s definitely a racier, more mature culture. Your teen will be able to watch broadcasts, meet stars, interact with streamers by commenting and sending virtual coins or gifts, develop a fan base, date, stream live videos to invisible broadcasters, meet friends and play games. Other things you need to know:

  • Once your child signs up, they’ll get a notice which reminds them that sexual and violent material is forbidden and to report any issues. But that doesn’t give much comfort since it’s controlled by the users.
  • A lot of bad behavior exists on here: crude humor, racial slurs, cursing, violence, references to drugs, alcohol and smoking and sexual content (both verbal and videos).
  • The whole point to this app is for a user to get as many followers and viewers as they can; the riskier or more “entertaining” the stream, the more points they gain which means achieving a higher level. This app can certainly be addicting!
  • lures many teens into thinking they are now popular online. That false sense of security could crush any teen’s psyche. If your teen really wants to use an app like this, we encourage them to use YouNow.

Instagram, YouTube Live and Facebook – These big-name apps have all the frills teens like and now have the capability for users to live-stream to their followers. It’s not very interactive though since followers only have the options to comment, like and watch at another time or in real-time. But there are still some issues:

  • With live-streaming sexual, racy, or upsetting material can be seen by your teen. Why? Live-streaming is very hard to control. So, as you can imagine, her safety and privacy will be a huge problem.
  • Like any other teen, your teen’s always looking for approval and, on these apps, she could be encouraged to do things that they wouldn’t normally do or share personal things about herself. This is why it’s essential that both of you go over your the app’s settings and, if needed, change the access setting to “friends only”.
  • It’s also extremely important to make certain rules about watching and creating live streams, talk with them and make sure they understand the rules and why they’re in place.

Hype – Teens love this unique app for its fancy elements and the ability to add in pictures, videos, and music to their broadcasts. With this app, your teen can also view a recorded broadcast, subscribe to feeds, look at and leave stars and comments and check out when a streamer is live. They can even interact live with other viewers and delete saved streams. There are other possible dangers you need to be aware of:

  • Besides the usual hazards discussed in this blog, when signing up, they’ll have the option of creating an account or using an existing Facebook account; if they choose their Facebook account, your teen’s full name will be shown to all Hype users.
  • It’s best you recommend he create a special sign-in name.
  • The good news is if your teen is 13-18 years old, they’ll need your permission to use the app.


If you’re going to let your teen use any of these apps, always look at the app first; read the terms and conditions and privacy policy, see what’s being broadcasted, viewed and commented. Sit down with your teen, set some ground rules and make sure they know that adults, as well as teens, might be using the app and it’s their responsibility to see that their privacy is protected. We can’t stress this enough: it’s essential that you talk about what’s okay to share in comments and videos, the dangers of oversharing, what they plan on using the app for, how to be safe online and what your teen will be viewing. But don’t stop there; stay involved; let them know you’ll be checking the app frequently to see what they’re posting and viewing. Your teen probably won’t like it, but it’s worth it to keep them safe. Additionally, it is always important to use a trust-worthy parental control software that allows you to manage screentime, block apps and block inappropriate or dangerous content!

The Misinformation Problem with YouTube and Social Media

At its best, YouTube and other social media sites are great ways to connect with friends, stay informed about current events, and learn new skills. YouTube, in particular, is well-known for how-to videos and educational chats.

But here’s the thing: anyone can start a YouTube channel or a social media profile.

And from there, they can say whatever they want.

The Spread of Misinformationmisinformation on social media

In 2015, NBC reported on the spread of false and misleading information following the attacks in Paris. Doctored photos (or photos taken at other times and claimed to have been taken following the tragic event) circulated quickly.

The year before, Time wrote about Ebola rumors that spread far faster than the virus itself:

“Following the first diagnosis of an Ebola case in the United States on Sept. 30, mentions of the virus on Twitter leapt from about 100 per minute to more than 6,000…. In Iowa the Department of Public Health was forced to issue a statement dispelling social media rumors that Ebola had arrived in the state. Meanwhile there have been a constant stream of posts saying that Ebola can be spread through the air, water, or food, which are all inaccurate claims.”

In many cases, Tweets and posts like these are from well-meaning people who want to help and protect their friends and family. Often they re-post without thinking–or, seduced by a headline, without even reading the article.

Too Smart to Fall for a Hoax?Misinformation on YouTube

We’d all like to think so, but U.S. News & World Report wrote about “…an experiment in which we learned 72 percent of college students trusted links that appeared to originate from friends – even to the point of entering personal login information on phishing sites.”

That experiment was over a decade ago. Nowadays, there’s an entire industry devoted to misleading the public: “Clickbait sites manufacture hoaxes to make money from ads, while so-called hyperpartisan sites publish and spread rumors and conspiracy theories to influence public opinion.”

The Problem With Spreading False InformationSpreading False Information on Social Media

It’s obvious, right? At best, you have a misinformed population. It starts getting worse when people make decisions based on this inaccurate information; it’s even worse when the false information induces unnecessary fear or outrage. And it’s all a giant waste of time because it’s all based on something that wasn’t true, to begin with.

The other problem is that we seem to be losing our ability to tell the difference between fact and fiction. We’re taking opinion as fact. We’re not following up with sources to ensure accuracy. This allows rumor-spreaders (and the sites devoted to it) to flourish.

All Eyes on YouTube

This article outlines a few issues that YouTube has today, and how they’re behind the curve when it comes to combating misinformation:

“In January, star YouTube vlogger Logan Paul sparked a backlash when he published a video showing the dead body of an apparent suicide victim in Japan…. That came as the company was already dealing with a series of reports revealing disturbing cartoons apparently aimed at kids…and another genre of videos depicting children in abusive situations.”

Despite hiring more moderators, quick conspiracy updates and live videos can’t be moderated quickly enough to prevent viewing and sharing.

How to Help Your Children Identify Misinformation

Adults and kids alike can benefit from a refresher course on how to identify false news stories, hoaxes, and unreliable sources.

  • Consider the Source: Teach them to look where the news is coming from. If it’s from CNN or the BBC, for example, they can probably trust it to be as close to fact as anyone is aware of at the time the story was written. If they’ve never heard of the website, it might be worth double-checking with a trusted source. They should also notice what kind of content the site regularly posts. If it promotes a specific agenda, the content may not be accurate. This applies to YouTube, as well: is the person giving nutrition advice actually a nutritionist or registered dietitian?
  • Do a Search: Snopes regularly checks up on posts and stories that fly through social media. If it seems questionable, look it up on Snopes.
  • Fact vs. Opinion: Tell your children to ask themselves, “Can this claim be proven?” If they think so, encourage them to research and find the facts that support it. If they can’t, then they know they’ve uncovered someone’s opinion floated as fact.
  • Identify Clickbait: There’s very little that’s truly “mind-blowing.” Clickbait sites regularly use headlines that indicate your life will change if you just read the article or watch the video. Headlines like, “She walks into a store, and you won’t believe what happens next” usually indicate garbage. Teach your kids to avoid clicking on those.
  • Google Image Search: A questionable photo can be dragged and dropped into the Google Image search bar, where you’ll be able to see where it originally appeared (to determine whether or not it’s related to the news piece someone says it is). Examine photos carefully for signs of editing, as well–this is even helpful on social media when your kids feel they’re not as beautiful or skinny or talented as the people they follow.
  • Share Mindfully: Your children should be encouraged to not share or re-post anything without reading it first and double-checking the accuracy of the information.
  • Correct Mistakes: Sometimes, we might accidentally share false information we truly thought was reliable. When you realize it, go back and delete the post and make a second post correcting the error.
  • Empower Your Kids: These guidelines aren’t meant to make the internet less fun for them. Instead, it’s giving them the power to stop the spread of misinformation and contribute to a more informed, thoughtful society.

Of course, it’s not just unreliable information you want your kids to avoid: it’s unsavory sites and videos, as well. This is why internet guidelines are essential. Using a trust-worthy parental control makes that easier! Keep an open line of communication about what your children find online–both real and fake. Set time limits the amount of time your children spend on the internet and block the sites and apps you don’t approve of or that your kids simply aren’t ready for.


Are You Really Paying Attention to What Your Child Is Doing Online?

You’re fully aware of the dangers of pornography, sexting, and bullying, and you may think that as long as your children aren’t engaged in any of that, they’re fine. We believe the best when it comes to our kids, which is why it can come as a surprise when you find out what they’ve been doing online.

“But my child would never…” you might think. Hopefully, you’re right. But they might be covering up all sorts of online activity, despite the rules you’ve set.

Shocked? Then you haven’t been paying attention.

We don’t want you to panic. But we do want you to be aware.

Kids Don’t Tell All

Your Children Don't Tell What They Do Online

Maybe you’ve laid careful ground rules about internet usage and forbidden access to certain apps. Maybe your child agreed and everything seems fine, so you haven’t followed up. However, this article by a junior high school teacher outlines the results of a little survey she took among her students. Of 85 students, 70 of them said they kept social media secrets from their parents (and five didn’t even have social accounts!).

They also finished the sentence, “What my parents don’t know about social media is…”. Some of their answers include:

  • You can buy drugs.
  • I have an account I’m not supposed to have.
  • Kids get bullied.
  • There is lots of nudity.
  • I talk to people I’m not supposed to.
  • I have a secret, fake account.
  • I’m on social media until 2:00 in the morning.

Can you say for sure that your children wouldn’t answer the same way?

They Learn About Sex

Children Learn About Sex Online

There’s a gap between sexual ignorance and pornography, and there are YouTube users who are filling that gap with sexual education.

This isn’t all bad. Some of the people who make those videos are doctors, and young adults have an opportunity to learn without feeling embarrassed or ashamed, particularly if their parents don’t maintain an open channel of communication about sex. These videos often provide a more in-depth look at sex: the physical, mental, and emotional elements as well as health and safety. Depending on your beliefs, what type of sex education is available at your child’s school, what type of relationship you have with your child, and, of course, your child’s age, this might be acceptable (or even a relief!) for you.

However, it’s still important that you know it’s happening, especially if you do want some say in how your child’s sex education is directed.

It’s Not Just Porn

Children Are Exposed To Bullying And Shaming Online

This article talks about porn on the app, but says that’s not the worst thing:

“The worst thing is watching little kids (as young as eight) sexually objectify themselves. The kids who get it right…gain followers. The kids who get it wrong — those not ‘sexy’ enough, funny enough, savvyy [sic] enough — are openly ridiculed in the comment section.”

The app opens children up to bullying, shaming, and worse. The author talks about the dark hashtags that are used to connect users who are interested in self-harm, eating disorders, or suicide. In her words:

“There are #killingstalking musical.lys, which are dark-themed…videos showing boys putting knives to girls’ throats. There are #selfharm videos that show suicide options — bathtubs filling, images of blades, a child’s voice saying she doesn’t want to live any more. I saw a boy with a bleeding chest (yes, real blood). I saw a young girl whose thighs were so cut up I had to take a break from writing this article.”

And that’s just one app.

What Can Parents Do?

What Can Parents Do To Protect Their Children Online?

We want to trust our kids, and at some point, we have to. However, that’s easiest when we prepare them to make good choices.

The internet isn’t going away. These apps are here to stay, at least until their popularity fades as new ones take their place. Many of them try to push the envelope to attract users, and kids are curious. They’re looking for an outlet to express the complicated feelings involved in growing up. They want validation. They want to be heard.

  • Listen. The best we can do as parents is to educate our children, and that starts with communication. Talk about what’s online, and let them know how important it is to tell you about what they see and what makes them uncomfortable. Let them know they can talk to you safely: they won’t get in trouble for telling the truth, and you won’t take any actions without discussing it with them first.
  • Educate yourself. You can’t protect them from threats you’re not aware of, so stay up-to-date about the latest apps and trends. This includes hashtags, challenges, and popular sites. Sign up for Google alerts related to social media and teenage trends: every day or week you can get a curated list of the top news articles and blogs regarding those issues.
  • Sign up for an account with any site or app your child wants to use and see what it’s like. How easy is it to set up a fake account? How easy is it to change the privacy settings? What type of material is being shared on that app, and how easy is it to find?
  • Monitor their internet use. Good quality parental controls can help you block specific sites and apps, and limit the amount of time your child can access the internet. Together with your child, set guidelines about passwords, friending and following each other, and not allowing the Internet to interfere with family time or homework. Make sure that you are checking your child’s device on a regular basis because many kids will give their parents kids the login and password for their social media accounts and turn around and make a secret account that Mom and Dad do not know about making software that “monitors” worthless. Yes, even young children do this these days!

The article that discussed mentions that it’s much easier to start by saying no to a site than it is to allow a social site, and then take it away from your child when you discover it’s not suitable for him or her. Start with more restrictions, and lighten up as your child grows and demonstrates maturity and responsibility.

In the end, your child makes his or her own choices, but we can still set them up for success by setting loving restrictions with trustworthy parental controls, developing their self-confidence, and guiding them toward safe and respectful choices regarding social media and the internet.

7 Apps With Hidden Dangers

While there are plenty of apps out there that you know as a parent you should have your children avoid or you can at least monitor on their behalf, others might be a little murkier. There are phone apps geared towards children and teens that can be dangerous in specific ways that you might not have even thought about. Social media apps that are geared towards children might seem innocent enough but can lead to inappropriate behavior and even bullying. Some games can have internal chat areas or sharing that you might not even be aware of as a parent. Here are seven everyday apps that you might want to keep on your radar and be wary of when your child is online or using on their phone.Hidden Dangers of Apps for Kids

What’s App

What’s App is a great way to text without using too much of your allotted cell usage or traditional texting limits. If you text with your child or family quite a bit, this can be a game changer, and is a great way for seamless communication to occur if your child is somewhere without cell service but with WiFi. What you should be doing is monitoring if their phone number and access to others is marked as private, or if their number is an open invitation for others through Facebook, which is attached to the platform. Checking your child’s contact lists and messaging within this app along with traditional texting is important.


Voxer is a fun app for children because it turns your phone into an old-school walkie-talkie, which can be a benefit in the neighborhood, mall, or anywhere where your child will be at close range with others that they want to keep contact with in a fun way that simplifies phone usage. The thing is, Voxer doesn’t just stop with this walkie-talkie function. There are other features that might not be as harmless, such as photo exchange options and ways to share personal information. This can lead to inappropriate behavior, texts, and even bullying among kids using this app. As a parent, you can turn off location services and double-check the privacy settings before your child falls in love with this app.

Words with Friends

Did you know that the game Words with Friends has an in-game messaging component? If you didn’t, you might want to check this feature in your child’s otherwise seemingly innocent online game. Many times the discussion feature in games can be turned off so that games can continue, but discussion cannot. Words with Friends can be a fun game played between friends and family, but there is also a feature to play games with random players, which can open up communication lines with strangers that you might not be aware of or approve of.

SnapchatHidden Dangers of Popular Apps

Snapchat is a fun way for kids to dress up pictures and share with the world for a few seconds, and then these are seemingly deleted from the app for others to view. This is the app that comes up with all of the cool add-ons such as flower crowns, adding puppy faces, and even face swaps. Incredibly popular with kids, this app can also be a bad breeding ground for bullying and gossip. If children or teens don’t fully understand the concept that no picture sent through their phone is private, inappropriate or embarrassing pictures might be sent to friends and others online. Instead of these quickly disappearing, others can use the screen grab function, capture compromising photos, and share these with others without your child’s knowledge or consent.


While you’ve heard of Facebook and Instagram, there are new social networking apps popping up all of the time, and kids seem to find and adapt to these faster than others. Kik is a texting and photo sharing app, but with features that make it easy to delete or hide conversations. If your child is using Kik, it is a good idea to monitor their usages and get a good handle on how this is used and where messages and sharing occur, especially when it comes to teens seeking more privacy than you are willing to allow.

Children and especially teens love music, and apps that can foster this love by bringing in the newest, popular content with options to sing and dance along can be a great interactive app for a child. While might sound great, there are some dangers that come with this you should review as a parent. The app itself pulls popular music, with no filter for content or language. Privacy options must be picked ahead of time to avoid your child coming in contact with anonymous uses as well. The search feature isn’t limiting and can suggest songs, some of which might have inappropriate wording your child wasn’t meaning to access.


Whisper can be a fun app for teens to express their views, much like Twitter, but with an anonymous twist to this. The thing is, anonymity isn’t always something that protects your children. This can lead to bad behavior and even bullying by users. Anonymous messages are sent with a GPS feature and those nearby are the ones who will access this, making this private, but local at the same time, which can identify users.Boy Using App With Hidden Dangers

From unwanted discussions, bullying, to inappropriate photo sharing, ensuring your child’s safety while on their phone and using everyday apps is a must. While there are plenty of apps that are geared towards children and can be a safe platform, it is a good idea to review these yourself first to make sure there aren’t any loopholes that could put your child in danger or in contact with unsolicited photos or discussions. It is especially important to monitor the app on your child’s physical device because many children and teens may have set up secret accounts or profiles that they haven’t told you about!  Starting with a trustworthy parental control is a great way to protect your family and to make blocking and unblocking apps easy as well as managing screentime to ensure a healthy and balanced relationship with their mobile devices.

Teaching Children Responsible Use of Technology

It’s time to have the talk with your kids.

Not that talk, though you may find they overlap at times. We’re referring to the digital device talk.

As technology continues to evolve and our use of it expands, it becomes more and more important to teach children to use it responsibly. The latest Pew Research shows that 95 percent of American adults now own a cell phone of some kind; 77 percent own a smartphone. This CBS article quotes Shawn DuBravac from the Consumer Electronics Association:

“Today about 80 percent of teens between 12 and 17 own a cell phone, and about half of those own a smart phone…. That’s about twice the rate from just two years ago.”

Of course, many toddlers are well-versed when it comes to a smartphone or tablet, even if they don’t have their own just yet. With this rise in use among children, we’ve seen some unsettling trends: online predators, digital addiction, and increased rates of depression and anxiety associated with social media use.

With the internet here to stay, the best we can do is teach our children how to navigate the digital world, and there’s no better time than now. If your two-year-old can download and use an app, you can start setting guidelines and having discussions that are suitable for your child according to their age and maturity. When you put those rules in place when the kids are young, it’s easier to establish a “this is how we do things around here” environment when it comes to mobile devices.

But it’s never too late. Even if your kids are older, they will benefit from an ongoing conversation with you about internet use and safety. Here are some things to consider:

Determine When Your Child Gets a Smartphone or TabletTeaching Children Responsible Technology Use


The New York Times reported in 2016 that the average age for a child to get a smartphone was 10. However, the experts are quick to say maturity is more important than age: it’s up to the parents to decide when is the right time. Experts tend to agree that “…later was safer because smartphones can be addictive distractions that detract from schoolwork while exposing children to issues like online bullies, child predators or sexting.”

Is your child ready for her own device? Ask yourself these questions:

  • Can he keep track of his belongings, or is he regularly losing items?
  • Does she follow your rules and directions in other areas of life?
  • Is he familiar with photo editing and the idea that not everything he sees online is a realistic depiction of life?
  • Can you keep an open dialogue with her about the internet and what she does there?

Sign a ContractTalk To Your Kids About Responsible Tech Usage

This CBS article recommends creating a contract with your child about smartphone use. Points may include having access to her passwords, requiring permission before she downloads anything, restricting use to certain hours, and outlining which activities can be done on the device. Create and sign it together; use it as a conversation starter so you can explain why those rules are in place and he has a chance to understand them after questioning them, if necessary.

Discuss the DangersFamily Technology Discussions

It’s hard to talk about, but it’s necessary: kids need to know what they should and shouldn’t share online. Here are a few points to touch on during that conversation:

  • Never give away any personal information to people you don’t know. Don’t post your location publicly.
  • People aren’t always who they say they are. Even someone you meet on social media and chat with for months might be lying about their identity.
  • Social media is a highlight reel. Everyone has bad days, but they don’t usually talk about that online. Not everyone’s life is as perfect as they make it look on social media.
  • Treat everyone with respect. Don’t engage in name-calling or rude conversations.
  • Don’t post anything that would hurt someone’s feelings. This includes photos, videos, and comments.
  • If someone, even a friend, makes you feel uncomfortable, tell me about it. We’ll discuss what we need to do about it, and I won’t make any decisions about it without your input.
  • Don’t share any nude or suggestive photos with anyone, even if you know and trust the person. Sometimes these photos get stolen or intentionally shared or posted publicly.

Lead By ExampleTeaching Young Children To Be Responsible Using Technology

Show your children what you want them to do by doing it yourself: turn your phone off at dinner, never check it while you’re driving (even when stopped at a light), and engage in respectful conversation on social media.

You may decide as part of your contract that you will friend and follow each other on social media; however, even if you don’t, your child or one of your child’s friends might look up your profile. Take some time to clean it up: remove any photos or comments that would be hard for you to explain or that might embarrass your child. Another kid could use your old posts as a way to make fun of your son or daughter.

It’s much easier to enforce a rule if you’re committed to the same rules. Of course, the hours you use your phone may be different than what you expect of your child, but those measures of safety and respect are good guidelines for everyone.

Use Parental ControlsTeaching Children Responsible Technology Use

The lure of late-night check-ins can be too much for even the most well-intentioned young smartphone user. Eliminate these temptations–and make your job easier–by using trustworthy parental controls on your children’s mobile devices.

Block internet access or certain apps during certain hours to help your child pay attention in school and get a good night’s sleep. Those enforced hours help your child get used to spending time away from his device and, hopefully, not grow dependent on or addicted to it.

You can also block certain sites or categories of sites. Many adult-oriented dating sites or apps, for example, can still be accessed by kids who simply lie about their age. It’s natural for children to be curious, especially if their friends are using these sites; blocking them helps prevent that curiosity from taking over.

Don’t underestimate your young child’s ability to pick up on and use mobile devices. Even if she seems too young for the internet, keep in mind that an environment of responsible internet usage will have an impact on her, even at that young age. As she grows up watching you put your phone down at dinner, for example, it’s more natural for her to do the same when she has her own phone.

When you start the conversation early, the line of communication feels more open and natural, rather than trying to force it open when your child has grown up without it. No matter how old your child is, start talking about responsible smartphone use now.

Teens, Their Mobile Devices and Why the Combination Concerns Parents

When it comes to teenagers and their devices, they are connecting, communicating and coming together with each other and society in general through their phones more than they do in person:

  • Ninety-two percent of teens are online at least once a day, and 75% have or have access to a smartphone. Ninety-one percent of teens go online from a mobile device.
  • Teens ages 12 to 17 spend an average of nine hours a day using their devices to text, post, listen to music and watch videos.
  • Fifty-three percent of teens report occupying a vehicle with someone who is texting and driving.
  • Fifty percent of teens using mobile devices think they are addicted to them. Fifty-nine percent of their parents asked in the same poll agreed.

The world is mobile in every sense of the world: new inventions move us forward and new technology makes it possible to multitask in motion. Teens are savvy when it comes to new devices and they want the best and latest, when the release date for new phones arrives, expect those devices and their accessories on top their most-wanted gifts list.

How are our kids using their phones?

Apps: Because so many apps are free, many parents have no idea how many their teenagers use. And there are difficult-to-find apps, called “ghost apps;” hidden behind innocuous icons and innocently duplicated real app icons. Teens use these ghost apps to hide sexting and explicit photos.

Games: Think teens are gearing up with expensive gaming consoles for their Call of Duty or Assassin’s Creed? Think again. Mobile devices account for 39% of game usage, and 93% of teens play some form of video games. And while parents express concern over game content, more than half enjoy the social element of gaming with their teens.

Dating and hook-ups: Too young for bars and mostly without cars, teens no longer eye each other over the biology lab Bunsen burner or pass notes in calculus class. They use dating and hook-up sites for everything from group conversation and meetups to flirting to casual sex between classes.

Ordinary chitchat: Instead of going to a friend’s house or the mall and meeting up in person, kids text with each other for conversation.

Posting photos and videos: Teens share what they wear, eat, buy, drive and earn to elicit responses, provoke shock, gain approval, court disapproval and prove their worth to their peers. Some teens lack of emotional and intellectual maturity also leads them to post images they find funny or intend as a joke but are hurtful to others.

Sexting, cyberbullying and stalking: The anonymity of the Internet allows the schoolyard bully to leave the playground and intimidate anyone, anywhere and anytime. Turning off mobile devices or changing passwords is only a temporary option since many teens need their devices to stay in touch with family, teachers and school administrators.

Body image comparisons: Particularly prevalent among teen girls, they snap selfies and share them to help “improve” their looks by encouraging each other’s drastic weight loss through starvation dieting, questionable plastic surgery procedures and excessively tight fitted corsets and undergarments.

Secret-sharing: Remember the adage, “Don’t tell anyone; it’s a secret?” Teens love these sites, where they read the darkest desires and confessions of total strangers and are encouraged to share their own thoughts anonymously.

What do parents need to know?

It’s a distracted world out there: Nearly 10% of teens age 15 to 19 die in distracted driving crashes, and nearly a half-million people have injured annually in distracted-driving incidents. Teens respect and mimic parental action, and need to see their parents obey the no-texting-while-driving rule, regardless of your state’s laws. Distracted driving is deadly driving, and no text, photo or game download is worth a life.

Phone use decreases face time: The devices also decrease a teen’s social skills development, interferes with good sleep habits and family interaction. With trust-worthy parental controls, Parents monitor teens’ device time with different features, turning their access on and off or blocking and unblocking particular apps to give them more digital downtime so that they can focus on schoolwork, hobbies and to develop personal relationships.

Teens overshare without understanding the consequences: Anonymity works both ways: it protects the stalker, pornographer, bully or thief, and your teens think they’re safe because their name isn’t used on a site. This false feeling of safety leads them to provide too much information, photos, and videos or use sites that capture their location or IP address. Explain to teens that any personal information shared is too much information, and even Snapchat postings are subject to grabbing and reposting.

It’s not always the stranger who’s the danger: Parents worry about the unknown bad guy in the van kidnapping their child, or sitting in the basement texting their teen about her body. But statistics show that over three million teens are bullied each year, one in six parents knows their child is either a victim or a bully and 160,000 skip school each day due to bullying. Parents need to balance the issue of strangers contacting their teens online and luring them with sex, money and jobs and the close-to-home issue of

Parents, remember that your teen is what you teach them to be: they learn kindness, charity, honesty, patience, courage, compassion and the priceless value of protecting their body, emotions, and intellect from anyone’s actions or words, whether spoken in person or sent online. Keeping in tune with what your teen is doing online and keeping the lines of communication open will lead them to a healthier life on and offline.


Teen Anxiety: Cyberbullying, Sextortion, and Pornography

There isn’t any question that anxiety is one of the worst mental illnesses out there next to depression, even if they frequently occur together. In teens who depend on mobile technology every day, it’s becoming a major problem. Statistics show 80% of all teens diagnosed with an anxiety disorder aren’t getting the treatment they need.

While this is a medical crisis on its own, knowing 25% of all teens suffer from anxiety is alarming enough. A lot of those causes may come from life events or brain chemistry, though a lot of it comes from what they experience online.

A recent report from CBS News showed teen anxiety rising due to daily cell phone use, giving rise to the correlation between mental health and what teens see online.

What they’re seeing there is certainly daunting if you’re a parent. Let’s examine issues like cyberbullying, sextortion, and online pornography to see how it could affect your child’s mental health. It’s not impossible to find a way to safeguard from these.

Anxiety and Cyberbullying

One of the most serious and ongoing issues in teen anxiety and suicide is cyberbullying. While it seems that social media channels continually try to find ways to combat cyberbullying, it’s something you can’t easily control. Plus, no matter what social media sites like Twitter, Facebook, and Snapchat do to combat abuse, it always seems to continue in one form or another.

When you see the list of social sites experiencing the most cyberbullying, Facebook still comes out on top at over 84%. Instagram is second at 23%, something more concerning considering the personal photos posted there.

In most cyberbullying cases, vicious threats by text or personal message are the most common form of abuse. These are hard to manage, especially since a lot of those messages are between teen friends in private online conversations.

It’s unfortunate this can also happen due to net anonymity. Someone who doesn’t even use a real name can still cyberbully teenagers and perhaps never get caught if they continually change their screen names.

If your own teen receives anonymous threats like this, you should always take immediate action. They may start feeling anxious and suicidal if close friends start bullying them based on their appearance or other lifestyle choices.

Anxiety and Sextortion CasesAnxiety Among Teens Using Smartphones

With cyberbullying still in crisis mode, sextortion cases just add more concern to what teens see online. These cases involve an anonymous sender taking photos of teenagers and Photoshopping them with sexually explicit imagery.

A lot of this occurs due to teens being tricked into clicking a link that downloads malware. This gives the culprit access to personal files like photos. Then they send an email with a subject line typically stating “Who hacked your account?” and asking for sick demands.

The above demands usually involve requesting the teen to make a sexually explicit video of themselves for the hacker. If refused, the sender threatens to publish the other explicit photos on the internet.

With this increasingly disturbing threat, you can see how bad things have become. Imagine your own teenagers getting a threat like this and having no power to stop it from happening. And, it only increases the potential for teen anxiety knowing what the repercussions are.

Anxiety From Accessing PornographyAnxiety From Accessing Pornography

The pornography industry is already so ubiquitous on the net, it’s almost inevitable that some of it is going to end up being seen by someone. No doubt you worry about your teens seeing it while still giving them autonomy on what they do on their smartphones.

What’s worse is teens may end up getting access to porn through their friends. It’s not always from hackers or inadvertent ads that pass on these explicit sexual images to teens. Once they become exposed, they may become addicted and start feeling signs of depression and anxiety.

Addiction Hope states these repercussions bluntly:

“Sadly, depression sets in when teens become beholden to a shameful, secretive and brain chemistry-altering stimulus.”

Since we’re living in such a sexually charged culture, exposure to online porn requires discussion with your teens as early as possible. Otherwise, they may seek it out on their own and end up facing anxiety they can’t control while trying to hide their addiction.

So what can you do to help control all of this for your teens? Ongoing discussions with your children can only go so far, despite always being the first good start. Next,  find an online trustworthy tool to make it easier for you to control some of these online dangers from your as much as possible.

Finding a Resource to Control What Your Kids See OnlineTeens and Anxiety Causes

It is always a good start for parents to start by establishing internet usage guidelines from the time your children are young, you can help them develop healthy habits in regards to their computers and mobile devices.

Enforcing these guidelines is always easier when you use trustworthy parental controls from the start.  However, it is never too late to start! You can work with your teens to establish boundaries as well as an internet schedule making time for homework and chores. You can even block certain apps or pause the entire internet, so that you can be sure your child is sleeping rather than checking to see what her friends are doing.

Even though life and the internet continually become an out of control carousel, it’s easy to bring back sanity when you’re in charge.

Unveiling Sarahah: What Parents Need to Know

You know that your children use Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat. You might even be aware that these types of social media apps bring some inherent dangers, often leading to distractions and self-esteem issues.

But beyond the most commonly available social media apps, today lies a layer of platforms that might be even more harmful to your children. Anonymous apps allow tweens and teens to freely share their thoughts and message each other, without ever having to attach their name. The newest example, Sarahah, is now making waves across the United States since making its way to the app store this past summer.

What is Sarahah?Sarahah Parents Info

The set up is simple. Users set up a personal profile page, similar to but simpler than Facebook, that describes them. Once that page exist, anyone can leave comments and feedback to the person who created the profile.

Digitally savvy parents will recognize this format as an early version of Facebook, before the existence of a news feed that collected thoughts and posts from all users. However, there is a significant difference: Sarahah promotes and encourages anonymity.

The origin story of this app is relatively interesting. It was developed by Saudi Arabian developer Zain al-Abidin Tawfiq, who created it as a tool for employees to provide open feedback to their bosses. In Arabic, Sarahah means “frankness” or “honesty.”

Had it stayed with its original use, it might have actually lived a good life as a productivity, workplace culture-enhancing app. But that’s far from the case. Today, its rapid rise has made Sarahah one of the most popular apps in the world. Today, it’s the #1 app in Apple’s app store in most major economies, and #5 in Google’s Play Store. It attracts more than 20 million users each day, many of whom are children and teenagers.

Understanding the Dangers of Anonymous Apps like Sarahah

Sarahah Parents Info

At this point, every parent should be paying attention. An app that allows teenagers to anonymously post feedback about their peers carries inherent dangers that cannot be mentioned enough. The app, as BuzzFeed details, is completely anonymous; in other words, not even the creator could unearth who writes what comments. Of course, that also means no oversight against bullying or other problematic content.

In that way, Sarahah follows directly in the footsteps of other anonymous apps before it, like and Yik Yak. All of them have come under scrutiny for the negative effects they can have on children; in fact, Yik Yak is now shut down for the harm it caused tweens and teenagers. Sarahah takes the concept one step further, by allowing aggregation of comments on individual profile pages.

Don’t take it from us. The app store reviews for Sarahah speak for themselves:

“My son signed up for an account and within 24 hrs someone posted a horrible racist comment on his page including saying that he should be lynched,” read one review re-posted by Business Insider. “The site is a breeding ground for hate.”

“Parents, don’t allow your kids to get this app,” another wrote. “This is an app breeding suicides.” A third suggested: “I don’t recommend going on here unless you wish to be bullied”. 

Parents are not the only ones sounding the alarm. In addition, teenagers themselves are speaking out. In an interview with Pittsburgh-based WPXI, 17-year old Autumn Heim detailed her experience with Sarahah:

I got a lot of inappropriate messages. There’s a couple messages, like bullying. But most of the time it’s kinda sexual. I think that it can be like, kind of dangerous. Because I know other people, they’ve gotten some pretty mean messages and they’re like, that it rolls off their back. But like, most of the time it can be kind of damaging.

The complete anonymity provided by the app, in other words, gives children free reign to impose dangerous thoughts about their peers. With no oversight, the results can be uncomfortable at best and harmful at worst, ranging from sexual harassment to cyberbullying. With no way to trace these comments back to their creator, the limits are almost endless.

And it doesn’t end there. The app actually harvests the contact information from all users to make initial connections. In other words, it’s much easier to find people you already know, and focus your comments on them. This practice also invites security concerns, as Sarahah does not disclose what all it does with these contact lists.

How Can I Protect My Children From Dangerous Apps?Block Apps Using Netsanity Parental Controls

Your first step as a parent should be highlighting the dangers that these types of apps can bring. As mentioned above, your children may already be seeing the negative effects of anonymity on their own but might need an adult voice to support them in their decision to not give in to peer pressure.

If your teenager insists on using the app, and you trust them to use it responsibly, make sure they understand the opt-out possibilities. For instance, users are able to prevent their profile from being searchable, which means that they have more control over who writes comments. With this type of control mechanism, the app’s original purpose – to provide positive, open feedback – may be more attainable.

Finally, especially for younger children, the best step may be to simply prevent access to apps like Sarahah. If apps like this become a problem for your children of any age they are easy to block when you use a trustworthy parental control. Netsanity, you can regulate the types of apps your children are able to download, allowing you to act as a gatekeeper and protect your kids from harm.

It’s Up to Parents to Teach Their Children Responsible Smartphone Use

With the wide variety of dangers awaiting kids online, it might seem easier to simply ban smartphones and internet access altogether.

Unfortunately, forbidding your children and teens from using a smartphone isn’t a practical solution. There are so many hours when they’re not under your watchful eye, and they can access the internet at school or at a friend’s house, which they’re likely to do if it’s the only opportunity they have to go online.

Aside from those logistical considerations, remember this: we really wouldn’t want to prevent them from using the internet. Like it or not, the world is online now, and kids need to be online with it. They need to learn how to interact online in a safe and appropriate way because that’s where they’ll find much of their school, work, and social life.

The key, then, is not about preventing internet use. It’s in education and monitoring to ensure your children use their smartphones responsibly. This is where to start to teach responsible smartphone use:

When Is Your Child Ready for a Smartphone?Teach Responsible Smartphone Use

It’s hard to pinpoint a specific age at which it’s appropriate to give a child a smartphone. This depends largely on the individual: some younger children are mature enough for their own mobile device, while some older children are not.

However, the American Academy of Pediatrics states that children younger than 18 months should not be using screens except for occasional video chatting. From 18 to 24 months, parents can introduce children to high-quality programming on a mobile device. As the children grow, screentime should be limited and monitored. The best way to monitor? The good old fashioned way of having smartphone/tablet spot checks because children can easily have secret or multiple accounts that you do not know about.

This National Public Radio article notes that parents have different opinions about when a child should have a smartphone. Some have pledged not to give their children their own phones until eighth grade, while other parents want their kids to have one at a younger age, often for safety reasons. Meanwhile, the Wall Street Journal points out that kids often start pressuring their parents to give them a smartphone at a young age.

You should ask yourself some of the following questions when deciding whether or not your child is ready for a smartphone:

  • Does he demonstrate responsibility, such as getting ready on time and arriving when he says he will?
  • Does she regularly lose her possessions?
  • Is his ability to get in touch with you a safety concern?
  • Would a smartphone be good for her friendships and social life?
  • Can he understand internet dangers?
  • Can she follow the guidelines you set regarding smartphone use?

Talking About SafetyA Dad Teaching Responsible Smartphone Use

Discuss some of the risks and problems with using the internet in a way your child can understand, which may depend upon his age. For example:

  • Respect: Teach him how to have respectful discussions, avoid name-calling (even if someone else starts it), and to never post anything that would hurt or embarrass someone else.
  • Highlight Reels: Help them to understand that not everything she sees online is true (or completely true). On social media, people often share the best parts of their lives. Make sure she understands that everyone has challenges and sad days–they just rarely talk about them publicly. Discuss the digital altering of photos, as well.
  • Information Sharing: Make it clear that they should never share their personal information online.
  • Predators: Explain that not everyone on the internet is who they say they are. If anyone, including friends from school, sends inappropriate or cruel messages, your child should tell you about it immediately.

This talk should happen before the phone is given to the child, but make it clear that it’s an ongoing conversation. The internet changes every day. New information, new trends, and new social media sites are constantly catching your child’s attention, so it’s important that you both feel you can approach each other with questions and concerns.

Keeping Up-to-DateHow To Teach Responsible Smartphone Use

As if you need another task as a parent: it’s essential to stay up-to-date about the latest internet and social media trends. Certain peer challenges, hashtags, and sites can prove dangerous for children, so it’s important for you to hear about these things as your kids do.

Just like you ask your child how their day was or what they are doing in school, ask about what they’re doing online, too. Watch the news for updates about social media and what’s popular among kids. If you hear a term or a hashtag you don’t understand, look it up. It might seem harmless, but it could indicate a serious behavior you would want to know about. For example, the hashtag #annie refers to anxiety while #cat can refer to cutting (self-mutilation). In this way, seemingly harmless hashtags actually link people who have some serious problems or engage in risky behaviors.

Setting Guidelines for Internet UseSetting Guidelines For Internet Use

In addition to the safety talk, you should also set clear guidelines for smartphone use and discuss that with your child before he gets the device. It’s easier to set rules and give more slack as you go along than it is to bring in new restrictions, so give it plenty of thought. Some considerations:

  • For what is he allowed to use his smartphone? To stay in touch with family? Family and friends? To do schoolwork? To play games? What social media sites are allowed?
  • When can she use the phone? Is it okay to have it during school? At what time does your child need to put it away at night? Can they listen to music in bed?
  • With whom can they use the device? Is it okay to use while other people are trying to talk to them, like at the dinner table?
  • Who sets the passwords? Are you, as the parent, allowed to access her phone? Should you require her to be friends with you on social media?

To some degree, you must trust your child to follow the rules you set regarding internet use. However, the lure of social media and peer pressure can influence your child to break those rules at times, which is why trustworthy mobile parental controls can provide some peace of mind. With parental controls, you can disable internet access to your child’s device at night, during school, and at the dinner table to ensure they stay focused on the real-world tasks at hand: sleeping, studying, and connecting with the family.

You may also want to block certain apps and even categories to eliminate some risk. For example, if you only want your child using Facebook and Instagram, you can block Tinder, Snapchat, Kik, Tumblr, and any other site or app you deem inappropriate for your child.

Today’s kids are smart. If they can learn to use their devices so quickly, they can certainly learn to use them safely and responsibly.

Are Smartphones Damaging This Generation’s Mental Health?

It’s been clear for a while: this generation isn’t like the others. Parents are working to raise their children in an environment quite unlike the one they experienced growing up. However, so much of the conversation about generational differences is still focused on millennials and how they’re disrupting everything from traditional employment to restaurant offerings. Maybe we haven’t been focusing enough on today’s teens and, specifically, their mental health.

In October, Time reported that “Between 2010 and 2016, the number of adolescents who experienced at least one major depressive episode leaped by 60%.” Meanwhile, teen suicide rates have been steadily climbing, with the rate among girls reaching a 40-year high in 2015. What gives? Why is this generation especially prone to mental illness?

According to this new study, the smartphone could be to blame.

Examining the EvidenceDo Smartphones Damage Mental Health?

About 77 percent of Americans have a smartphone, up from 35 percent in 2011. Among teenagers, 73 percent had access to a smartphone as of 2015. In this article, study author Jean Twenge, a psychology professor at San Diego State University, wrote:

“… increases in depression, suicide attempts and suicide appeared among teens from every background – more privileged and less privileged, across all races and ethnicities and in every region of the country….smartphone ownership crossed the 50 percent threshold in late 2012 – right when teen depression and suicide began to increase.”

But what about economic issues or academic pressure? Researchers considered those potential causes but ruled them out: 2010 and the following years featured economic growth and low unemployment, and careful study revealed that teens were spending the same amount of time on homework as they had in previous years.

Though excessive internet use has been linked to depression and anxiety for a while, the reverse has also been considered: perhaps people who are depressed spend more time online. Twenge writes,

“The argument…doesn’t also explain why depression increased so suddenly after 2012. Under that scenario, more teens became depressed for an unknown reason and then started buying smartphones, which doesn’t seem too logical.”

Furthermore, this isn’t the only study to point to screen time as the culprit for the increase in teen depression. The article mentions three other studies (you can see them herehere, and here), all of which indicated that social media use has a negative effect on well-being.

Why It’s a Problem (Even If Your Teen Doesn’t Seem Depressed)How Can Smartphones Damage Mental Health?

Depression and suicide are complicated problems that may have complicated causes. Genetics, home environment, past traumas, and bullying can all contribute to anxiety and depression. The smartphone may not be the only contributing factor to a mental health issue, but it could be the one that pushes a teen who is at risk over the edge.

Twenge also points out two concerns regarding excessive smartphone use, both of which could contribute to depression and other issues like poor academic performance, irritability, and poor decision-making skills:

Lack of SleepWhy Smartphones Damage Mental Health

Teens may stay up late or even wake up in the middle of the night to check their phones. Part of this is FOMO (the fear of missing out): they want to make sure they’re in constant contact with their friends and fully aware of whatever is going on. They might also play games, edit photos, chat, or browse social media profiles.

This CBS News article says that late-night smartphone use not only replaces sleep, the content stimulates the child’s brain and the light from the screen suppresses melatonin, making it more likely he or she will have trouble falling asleep even after the phone gets put away for the night.

Not getting enough sleep can lead to forgetfulness, difficulty concentrating, lowered alertness, poor reasoning skills and impaired judgment, health problems like diabetes and high blood pressure, weight gain, and, of course, depression.

Less Real-World InteractionWays Smartphones Damage Mental Health

As kids and teens spend more time online, they spend less time with their friends and in nature. Unfortunately, “Feeling socially isolated is also one of the major risk factors for suicide.” A strong real-life social network boosts immunity and helps you sleep well.

Meanwhile, spending time outdoors can relieve stress, improve your ability to concentrate, increase your energy levels, boost your immune system, and improve your mood. Involvement in music, sports, martial arts, dance, and other activities get teens away from the smartphones for a while and give them an opportunity to develop a skill they might use for the rest of their lives.

Even if your teen’s depression doesn’t lead to something as tragic as suicide, it doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll “grow out of it” or manage to heal herself. Depression isn’t imaginary and it’s not merely teenage drama. Mental health is as important as physical health; depression is something that can impact your child’s self-esteem, social life, and decision-making, and it could follow him into adulthood.

Signs of DepressionInformation On How Smartphones Might Damage Mental Health

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention advises watching your child for these signs of depression:

  • Disinterest in enjoyable activities.
  • Lack of motivation.
  • Changes in eating and sleeping habits.
  • Changes in energy level.
  • Ongoing irritability or feelings of sadness or hopelessness.
  • Difficulty focusing and paying attention.
  • Feeling useless.
  • Self-harm and other self-destructive behavior.

Protecting Your Teen’s Mental Health

First, do what you can to encourage a healthy lifestyle for your child, both physically and mentally. Of course, given the many factors that may contribute to depression, you may not be able to prevent depression. However, there are a few things you can do:

  • Boost His Self-Esteem: Help him get involved in activities that interest him, and celebrate his improvements and successes.
  • Manage Stress: Acknowledge the pressures of school and social life, and help her explore ways to manage that stress: yoga, exercise, time in nature, time with pets, or anything else she finds relaxing.
  • Promote a Healthy Lifestyle: Proper nutrition, sleep, and exercise can help prevent a wide variety of health issues, including depression.
  • Limit Screen Time: As the evidence piles up, we can’t ignore the connection between screen time and depression. As Twenge writes, “…the downside to limiting screen time…is minimal. In contrast, the downside to doing nothing – given the possible consequences of depression and suicide – seems, to me, quite high.” With that in mind, use trustworthy parental controls to disable the internet when you don’t want your teen to be online. Limit their use to just a couple of hours per day if you wanted, or simply block their social apps at night to help ensure a good night’s sleep while still allowing to listen to music. As an added bonus, you can block sites that are especially damaging to self-esteem (like those that allow users to determine how pretty or ugly someone is) or that you deem inappropriate.

If your child does exhibit signs of depression, it’s important to seek professional help.



Reddit: What Parents Need to Know

You might have a handle on how your teenager uses Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Tumblr, but the social media universe is vast. As a parent, the best you can do is to keep educating yourself on the various sites that are drawing the attention of young users. With that in mind, let’s talk about what parents need to know about Reddit.

What Is Reddit?Reddit Parents Information from Netsanity

This social site is about sharing and rating web content. Users can share whatever they’d like, from jokes to photos to news stories (70 percent of users get their news from Reddit), and other users leave comments and vote the post up or down. In this way, the community decides what’s important: the most popular stories become more visible and generate more discussion.

Posts are divided into categories known as “subreddits.” Whatever your interest, from lacrosse to car repair to scary stories, there’s a subreddit for that. Users also share personal stories and ask for advice.

Who Can Use Reddit?Teenage boy using Reddit app on iPad

Anyone can visit the site and browse through the stories, clicking the links they find interesting. However, in order to participate in the community by voting and commenting or making your own posts, you need to register. It’s free, and you don’t have to prove your age when you sign up. Kids and teens can and do use it, even though it’s generally adult-oriented.

Pew Research from 2013 indicated that among adults, there are far more men than women using the site; males age 18-29 are the most likely users.

The site is moderated by Reddit employees; if you post or engage in ways that are against policy, you might be asked to stop or your account could be suspended. If your content is inappropriate, it can be removed. The Reddit community self-regulates, too:

“The Reddit community will not tolerate users who try to spam the site with inappropriate or mediocre content. If you try to promote your own links aggressively without any other involvement in the Reddit community, you may get slapped by other heavy users who want you to play by the rules.”

As of 2015, there was a push to more closely monitor harassment-based subreddits, which included banning a couple of hateful forums, despite the company’s focus on allowing free expression.

NSFW – “Not Safe For Work”Person browsing Reddit on smartphone

This acronym stands for “not safe for work,” and you see a lot of it on Reddit. In fact, there are numerous subreddits devoted to it. This category is likely to include sexual material as well as violence and bad language. You will be asked your age before viewing the NSFW section, and you are only admitted if you say you are at least 18 years old, which you can do with one simple click.

Reddit includes NSFW guidelines in their content policy:

“Content that contains nudity, pornography, or profanity, which a reasonable viewer may not want to be seen accessing in a public or formal setting such as in a workplace should be tagged as NSFW. This tag can be applied to individual pieces of content or to entire communities.”

Should Your Children Use Reddit?Should Kids Use Reddit?

The truth is, for many kids, it’s probably not the most appealing social site out there for general use. (Even among adults, only four percent use the site, versus the 79 percent of online adults who use Facebook.) Instagram and Snapchat are far more popular among teenagers, and if you were to block Reddit on their mobile devices, they might not even notice.

Still, the longer a teen spends online, the more likely he or she will go looking for new sites to explore, and you never know when a site will become the next Big Thing. Furthermore, if a teenager is actively seeking out NSFW content, they probably know Reddit is a good starting point. Therefore, it’s a good idea to keep an eye on Reddit along with other social sites.

Common Sense Media gives it a star rating of three (out of five) in regard to the quality of the site and its potential for learning and recommends it for people over the age of 15. Common Sense mentions the good points of the site, including that groups have formed to raise money for causes, and that people can connect over shared interests. However, they also clearly state that Reddit is “…definitely not for kids,” adding:

“The drawback on Reddit is the same as it is for the entire Internet — there’s just no telling what people will put out there. Links, comments, and entire subreddits may expose kids to biased, offensive, or sexual content. Reddit’s best audience is a grown-up one.”

What Parents Can DoNetsanity Block Reddit

You always have the option to block Reddit using quality parental controls. If your child is already using Reddit, make it part of the conversation you have with him or her about the internet. The same guidelines apply to Reddit as apply to other social sites:

  • Teach your child to engage in constructive conversation and avoid name-calling or bullying.
  • Explain what type of information should never be shared online.
  • Depending upon the age and maturity level of your child, as well as your relationship with him or her, you might be able to explain why you don’t want your child to access certain types of material. For example, the sex depicted in pornographic images isn’t generally representative of real life; a young teen may not recognize that difference without your guidance.
  • Let your kids know they can come to you for help if they encounter someone or something that makes them feel scared or uncomfortable.

Keep your children safer by making sure to limit the hours that your child can access the internet on his or her mobile device, and make sure to block sites, like Reddit, that you don’t deem appropriate by using trustworthy parental controls. It is never too late to talk to your children and teens about apps and social media sites that you feel are inappropriate for them to be using. With good communication and a little help from Netsanity, parents can keep their kids protected and balanced while getting the benefits of being online and using a mobile device!